Principle no 3: You have to walk the walk, and not only talk the talk.
Change is about action, not theories, knowledge, insight or intellect. It is about behaviour.
As Nike says, JUST DO IT. Don’t announce it, don’t talk about it, don’t plan it: practice it. And again. And again and again. Take it a step at a time.
This is a very very powerful principle when applied.
An example of Just Do It: Instead of telling someone, “I don’t want to discuss it” (and causing a scene), you don’t discuss it.
Instead of saying, “You never come out with me to do the things I want to do…” you say, “Let’s go to the park today” (and reflect on how you may have been setting the other person up so they never do the things you want to do…)
Instead of saying, “I feel so guilty that you do all the cooking, can’t we do a roster or something so I do half the week” you go out and buy groceries and say, “I’ll cook tonight”.
Don’t succumb to the Talking (About It) Addiction!
With love from
(For further practical tips on change, see my colleague The White Rabbit)